How to deal with Loneliness

How to deal with Loneliness

 

What is loneliness?

Loneliness is defined as “the state of being left alone” and “being neglected and ignored by people you love and care for”.

 

Loneliness and Solitude

 Loneliness is being left out from conversations or having no real value of whatever you say. There are many different types of loneliness; however, they all have one thing in common – the feeling of being left out, being alone and isolated. Loneliness is different from solitude. A person feeling solitude emotion is content with being alone. Solitude is an emotion where the person is on their own but they do not feel neglected and ignored by anyone, they have inner self peace as compared to people who feel the emotion of loneliness. Loneliness can be caused by any number of things, including physical disabilities, mental illnesses, social issues, and even environmental factors. However, the most common cause of loneliness is simply not having enough friends or understanding family. When the people you are close to and have to deal on daily basis start to make you feel alone and neglected induce the fear of being alone and isolated

 

Why are we lonely?

In today's society, we are constantly surrounded by people. As humans we tend to have an emotion of feeling validated by others. We tend to feel proud and happy when other acknowledge us or our work. Having access to information at our fingertips, and we are able to communicate with anyone, anywhere, anytime around the globe we have vehemence of validation and approval from others. Yet, despite these advances, we still feel lonely. Why? Because we are missing something. Something that makes us feel included. Something that connects us to others.

 Friendship is a relationship between two or more individuals where both parties enjoy each other's company. Friendship or any other relation is the bond where everyone has a sense of connection with each other, we tend to befriend those who have the same common interest as us. Friendship is about connecting with someone else on a personal level and on an emotional level. It is about sharing interests, hobbies, and experiences. In short, friendship is about making connections and a gateway for encouragement and self-worth.

Loneliness is an emotion

Loneliness is also an emotion it is not reliant and dependent on being alone. It is a state of mind. Loneliness cannot be defined as how many friends you have, how big is your social circle or how much you interact with the people around you. Loneliness and isolation are the state of not being able to connect internally with anyone even after having friends and family around.

When we lack friendships, we become isolated. And isolation and disconnection are loneliness. When we connect with others, we experience happiness and feel euphoric. It is human nature to interact with people and feel the emotions of anger, sadness, happiness and isolation or loneliness. Happiness comes from being around those who make us happy. So, if you want to stop feeling lonely, start making relation with people that validate you and your opinions.

 

How to deal with loneliness

Now the main question arises how to deal with loneliness and isolation on your own, and how to enjoy one’s own company.

Here are 10 ways a person can eradicate loneliness and isolation and experience happiness and contentment in their own bubble

1.  Enjoy your own company

2.  Find joy in the things you love

3.  Limit social networks and connect with real world

4.  Find your exhilaration in the mother nature

5.  Engage yourself with positive people

6.  Keep a positive mindset

7.  Try cooking for yourself and enjoy the process

8.  Do not rush yourself as everything happens for a reason

9.  Be friend with people with similar interest

10.   Stay calm and content with your life

 

 

Conclusion

To overcome and deal with loneliness we need to help yourself first. We need to take care of our mental wellbeing and should become friends with our emotions and sentiments. You should be there for yourself; you should be certain that even if friendships or relations doesn’t work out you got yourself. Start with loving yourself. Unwind from a hectic day with a long shower, read your favorite book or do your skincare, anything that can keep your mind away from the thoughts that you are alone and lonely.

You can feel lonely even if you are in a loud part or gathering, even you have many friends you can feel lonely. Sometimes you and you friends have very less things in common and you may find it difficult to talk to them or you have no clue what they are talking about and we decide to remain quiet, well, than you have to find your own people. Look for people with common interest as you.

There is no perfect friend or perfect human, we all have to compromise on certain steps to get this social gathering going. Find people you can talk to without having to thought about consequence and enjoy your own company  

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