Why do I feel alone and how to overcome Loneliness

Why do I feel alone

 

Being alone is something that many people struggle with in various occasions of their life. We have been taught to always be around others, whether we want to or not. Being social and having a social life is considered an achievement. When we are alone, we tend to think about our problems, life choices and how things went wrong in our lives.

Being Alone - Negative Effects

 The negative effects of being alone are that you may start thinking negatively about yourself. You will begin to doubt yourself and question everything. You will start to feel depressed and lonely. Once you are left alone with your thoughts, negative feelings and negative mindset will cave in. You will start to question and will find flaws almost everything. You will start to worry about your future and what might happen. These are just some of the negative effects of being alone.

 Being Alone - Positive Effects

 The positive effects of being alone are the same as the negative ones. However, they are slightly different. Instead of feeling bad, you will feel good. Your mind will clear and you will feel happy. You will feel free and relaxed. You will feel content and satisfied.

It is all the mind games. There will be times where the solitude and being by yourself will make you relax and calm and there will be times where it will drain you of your energy and motivation.

Being alone is something many people struggle with. I know I do. When I was younger, I was always looking for someone to hang out with. Being social and having tons of friends or acquaintances was something that was praised. Nowadays people tend to have small social gatherings, personal and private lives, However, sometimes when you're alone, you feel lonely or depressed. When there's no one else around, and you just want to talk to someone to get the burden off you find yourself alone.

You need to find some way to relieve yourself from boredom. Here are some ways to get over loneliness:

 1. Talk to Yourself

 When you're alone, you might think about talking to yourself. In reality, you should never talk to yourself. If you really want to talk to someone, then talk to them. Talking to yourself isn't going to solve anything. Sometimes you may say things that you regret later. So, before you start talking to yourself, ask yourself whether it's worth saying those things.

 2. Read Books

 Reading books is another great way to pass time. Reading books helps you learn new things and become smarter. Reading books is also a great way to free yourself from reality. You can read books about anything. You can even read self-help books. Self-help books help you understand yourself better. If you read books that make you happy, then it'll be easier for you to get rid of loneliness. Find the trope you enjoy reading the most and find yourself down the rabbit hole of reading 2 books a day and actually enjoying it.

 3. Watch Movies

 Watching movies is also a good way to pass time. Watching movies makes you forget about loneliness. You can watch movies about any topic. You can watch romantic comedies, action movies, horror movies, etc. As long as you choose a movie that makes you happy, then it won't matter how sad the plot is. You can still enjoy watching the movie and make yourself feel loved and happy.

 4. Listen to Music

 Listening to music is another way to pass time. Listening to music can give you a sense of peace and serendipity. Relaxation is the best thing to do when you're alone. You can listen to songs that make you happy. You can listen to upbeat songs, slow songs, mellow songs, etc. Whatever type of song you like listening to, you can listen to it whenever you're alone.

 5. Do Something Creative

 Doing something creative is another great way to spend time. Doing something creative will give you a sense of accomplishment. That's why doing something creative is a great way to get over loneliness. You can paint, draw, sculpt, write, dance, sing, cook, play sports, etc. Anything that makes you happy is okay. Just make sure to choose something that makes you happy.

 6. Take A Walk

 Taking a walk is another great way to get over feelings of loneliness. Taking a walk outside is a great way to clear your mind. You can go for a walk at a park, along a river, or anywhere. Just make sure you take a walk where there aren't many people. Going for a walk will help you relax and clear your head.

7. You're not alone

 Whether you are a parent, caretaker, spouse, friend, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, cousin, nephew, niece, grandparent, grandfather, grandmother, great-grandfather, great-grandmother or even just someone who cares about someone else's feelings, you have no idea how many people go through similar situations. We have all been touched at some point in our lives. Whether we realize it or not, we have all experienced grief and loss. No matter what stage of life you are in, you have felt lonely at times.

 8. Don't let them get away

 When you are dealing with grief, anxiety, loneliness or any situation that makes you sad and depressed don't allow yourself to fall victim to those feelings and emotions. Reach out to others around you and tell them that you need their help and comfort. If they offer to listen, then take advantage of that offer. If not, try to find someone else to talk to. Talking to strangers is sometimes easier than talking to family members because you are less likely to offend anyone. Keep going back to friends that make you feel good and comfortable; remember that they want to hear from you too.

 9. Let it go

 Don't beat yourself up over things you cannot change. Take a step back from the negative thoughts that are trying to control your mind, body and spirit. Instead, focus on something positive and use that thought to move forward. Think about what you want to accomplish and how you wanted to live your life. Set goals for yourself and strive to achieve them each day. Doing so will help you look back on your past experiences and learn from them. When you feel like giving up, think about how much worse off you could be because of the pain you are experiencing now.

 10. Get involved

 Find ways to get involved in your community. Join groups that are focused on helping people in similar situations as yourself. Volunteer for organizations whose mission is to promote well-being among its members. If you are lucky enough volunteer your time and skills (such as writing letters, taking down information for clients, etc.) to help others and connect with community members. Make friendships with people who understand where you are coming from. Socializing can be difficult when you are grieving, but try to find other people to socialize with. Remember that these connections with friends and family members will only strengthen your resolve to live a happier life.

 11. Take your time

 It may seem obvious, but taking your time after a significant loss is important. Allow yourself to grieve without having expectations from yourself. Give yourself permission to cry if you need to or feel sad. Letting yourself feel the way you do will help you heal faster. Your feelings will pass, and you can start feeling happy again.

 12. Find a hobby

 If you are feeling depressed or overwhelmed, find a hobby that you enjoy doing. Taking time to do something you love and enjoy can be therapeutic and give you something to look forward to. Playing video games, watching television shows/movies, reading books, listening to music, knitting, cooking, dancing, drawing, singing, gardening, fishing, hiking, camping or anything else that you enjoy doing will keep your mind busy and provide a distraction from your current circumstances.

 13. Have faith

 Have faith that everything happens for a reason. Everything that happens to us happens for a reason. Perhaps death was meant to be a catalyst for healing and learning. Maybe you were given a second chance to experience the joy and happiness that comes with being alive. When you begin to believe in these concepts, you will start to notice that the negativity fades and you become more optimistic about the future.